We often assume the ability to reflect on feelings and understand others comes naturally. In fact, this capacity—called mentalization—is learned in our earliest relationships. When caregivers imagine and respond to a baby’s distress, they teach that emotions can be understood and managed. Therapy renews this process, helping us think about our own mind and others’ with more clarity, resilience, and compassion.

Not all couples fight. Some avoid conflict through silence or by one partner always giving in—but that’s not intimacy. This blog explores how conflict, when approached thoughtfully, can strengthen connection. Learn practical, depth-informed strategies for fighting fair, staying emotionally present, and using conflict as a path to deeper mutual understanding.

When we think about relationships, we often picture a bond between two people. But in reality, couples are rarely navigating a world of just two. Every relationship exists within a wider web—of families, histories, friendships, careers, personal dreams, and social expectations. For some in open relationships this may include a third person or partner(s).

Mental health doesn’t exist in a vacuum. As a couples therapist, here’s what I’ve learned about how partners can support each other in meaningful, sustainable ways when one person is struggling.

Becoming parents can bring couples closer—and also stir up conflict, vulnerability, and unmet needs. This post can help partners make sense of the emotional terrain of parenting together

When the future feels uncertain, it’s not just our finances that feel the weight—our relationships do, too. Whether it’s job insecurity, rising costs, or broader global instability, economic stress often seeps into the day-to-day fabric of a relationship. It can influence how we talk to each other, how we make decisions, and how much we feel we can lean on one another. Many couples find themselves feeling disconnected or stuck in repetitive confl

If you’ve ever had an argument with your partner that seemed to go in circles—or found yourselves emotionally exhausted after trying to “talk it out”—you’re not alone. In reality, pushing through tough conversations without a break often leads to escalation and misunderstanding.

Mastering the Art of Making Amends: Key Steps to Offering a Sincere and Effective Apology

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Ideas to try before, during or after couples therapy.